Phone Number and a Parenting Lesson

This week has been  interesting, our  oldest son is 7,  and in First grade, and let me be the first to admit I have NO idea how to parent him.  Most of the time I think I have him figured out, and then he throws me a curve… Monday, I am happily working away in my office, catching up on some much neglected paperwork, and my cell phone rings, I don’t recognize the number, so when I answer it’s this little tiny girl voice,

“Is Cooper there?” she asks ( I am totally taken off guard.)

“Huh?” I answer.

“Cooper, is he there?”  She asks again.

“Um no, he’s not here, he’s at home and I am working.” I say.

“Oh ok, this is his girlfriend, can you have him call me?” She says.

After a pregnant pause I stammer,  “Uhhhhh ok.”

Luckily for me at that moment one of my managers came into my office and distracted me from the phone call that I had just received.  Then a whirlwind of papers, phone calls and customer service pages followed, so I didn’t have time to think about this little girl calling my son…..until I was driving home.  I wondered how I was going to handle this, I had the little girls phone number written down, so that I could remember not to answer it.  I was floored, 1st grade, what the heck is going on here, maybe I am over-reacting but I sure don’t want girls calling my son this soon.

When I got home I asked Coop nonchalantly,  “Who is Jenny,” (not her real name, but you get the point.)

“Oh she’s a girl in my class, did she call,” he asks?

“Uh yeah,” (my vernacular was slightly limited that day, lots of ummmms and uhhhhs.)

“Oh, I gave my friend (a boy) my phone number so we could play, and she stole it from him and wouldn’t give it back.  So I wrote it for him again,” He told me.

“Ok,” I said, “Well Cooper I just want to make sure that you are not worried about having a girlfriend in first grade, you need to work on friendships and not about girlfriends.”

“I know mom, you’ve told me that a million times,” he said.

(end of conversation).

***side note, the phone number isn’t our real number, so don’t worry***

Later that night the phone rang again, same number, same kid….so when I answered, and the girl asked again for Cooper, I asked to talk to her mom. When she got on the phone, I told her that I didn’t think it was a good idea that her daughter be calling Cooper.  I was nice, but on the inside I wanted to yell at her for being a dumb mom…I didn’t, I just stated, that I am trying to raise my boys to be respectful of women, and be gentlemen, and that I thought that 1st grade was a little young to be talking to boys and having girlfriends.

She seemed to understand, but I am not sure if it’s going to cause friction.  I really don’t want it to, but I want my boys to retain their innocence for as long as possible.  This world is hard and scary sometimes, and I honestly feel like Kevin and I are the only advocates our boys have.  I don’t take that lightly.  I believe in my heart of hearts, that someday I will stand before God and be held accountable for the way that I have raised my children and the choices that I have made in their behalf.  I don’t want to mess that up.

Proverbs 22:6 says, “Train a child in the way he should go, and when he is old he will not turn from it.”  This is my deepest hope, that I will train my boys to be loving, kind, men of God,  who will care for their families and be people who others want to be around, because of their character.  A high hope I am sure, but I am resting in the fact that God is helping me do the best job I can, and that when I fail (which I do daily) he will come along side me and make up for my inadequacies.

Please Lord come along side me and make me the mother that I long to be, full of love and patience, a mother that seeks your will always and sets the example for my children.  A mama who desires only their best, no matter how hard the lesson. Thank you for blessing me with these boys, and for their lives that you have entrusted to me.  Help me in my failures and use them to teach and guide me in how to be a better mama.  Thank you Lord for being the perfect Father and for being the ultimate example.

Hope you all have a wonderful Wednesday.


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